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Play to win, love to attain...

“When you want something, the entire universe conspires in helping you to achieve it...”
...You just need to figure out what you want and if you really do…

People ponder over different things and they have opinions about them-like all of them! Its like "not again man!" Everyone has an opinion on Cricket, God, harry potter, Mumbai vs Delhi, love... I have refrained from saying anything on these because frankly I won’t have anything new. But I guess, I will do that, one by one for each of them. Its my need to narrate… I pick up love first. I did that because I actually picked it up first from amongst the list.

Bah I am not defining, declining any idea of love, poking or bashing any behavior, establishing or challenging any theory. I am simply propagating my idea of love which so far has appealed to me the most-

“There are ten thousand thing I can tell about what love is not, but not a single thing i can tell about what it is.

Yes it happens on its own, for no reason, with or without effort, but it’s not Newton’s law. It won’t continue to be in its current state of motion unless applied by an opposite force. It is more like a pendulum whose oscillations will damp with time and gravity. What kick we fraud engineers get out of remembering hi-sci funda and jargons! The bottom-line is it’s an SIP, you gotta invest regularly and choose a long term maturity for best returns.

You don’t play a game with indifference towards its outcome, ditto with love. I am not pointing towards the great funda of being goal-centric and of belief in winning; nor declaring open revolt against great Geeta teaching. Karmanyevadhikaraste….. don’t care for outcome , put in your best blah blah. Like how? for what? I think I can’t put in my best if outcome is not on my mind. As they say, journeys are more important than destinations, but they won’t be same without one. Similarly, agreed, playing is more important than winning but it cannot be the same if results were not to be tracked. Play to win, love to attain.

Its adventitious but you have to decide too. Don’t make the mistake of thinking it is happening and will happen because its divine. Arre yaar, god did his part, now don’t be lazy and look up to him for everything. Do something yourself too. Love, to those who are lucky, maybe served on platter but you gotta take your own bite.

Know that ‘they’ always showed half baked pie and one side of coin. Nothing is just good, just rosy. People will fight, have difference of opinion, put you to stress and make you feel stuck. Know that its part and parcel of a relation. Don’t get into it if you are not up for it. Take your time, decide and be sticky. But then it’s a thin line. I am saying don’t just give up when its difficult. You do have to make a decision… but don’t hang on just because you decided to. It is difficult to hold on and difficult to let go, what’s worse is not knowing what to do!

And finally I am writing my ‘Awww’ paragraph. In the long run, for all seasons and reasons, getting in love is a good deal I think. It’s good if you have someone apart from your boss who will be selflessly concerned if you took your medicines in time. Good to have a mediocre meal feel tasty for reasons other than ambience of places or recipe of meal. Good to have opinion on simple actions and actions on simple opinions by someone. Good to share without doubting that you got the smaller piece and wishing that you do. Good to lean, good to depend and good to support. Good to know that with someone around, you can say, ‘Don’t know why, I feel good!’

Comments

  1. I blame the dope that I am on for finding meaning is every single word in this write-up. Absolutely loved it. Amazingly written. Kudos!

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  2. http://truth-about-cats-n-dogs.blogspot.com/2011/06/why-love-is-unsustainable-business.html
    doesn't this contradict your current opinions?

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  3. In terms of writing style, maybe you can look up to establishing more connect between the paras so that they seem kinda seamless. And yet different enough to be separate paras. It is difficult to continue in the same para, and difficult to make a new one - what makes it worse is that we dont know which is the right thing to do! :P

    As far as the message of the post is concerned, I am not sure if love needs a goal. It is adventitious and all it needs is a sense of direction. Some people use goals to define their direction, while some use intuition and gut feel. The latter idea almost always works for me! :)

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